“Personality begins where comparison leaves off. Be unique. Be memorable. Be confident. Be proud.”
― Shannon L. Alder
First we had magazines and television, and now with the boom of social media we find ourselves comparing our lives, goals, accomplishments, and morals, more often than ever before. It’s easy to slip into the habit of comparing ourselves to others when pictures and stories constantly flood our screens. That is why it especially important, now more than ever, to consider the downside of utilizing others as a benchmark for our own particular worth.
What Are Some Of The Downsides Of Comparing Ourselves To Others?
When we compare ourselves to others, it’s usually the worst of ourselves versus the best of others.
Each of us have 86,400 seconds every day to spend however we want. But using even one of those seconds to compare yourself to someone else is wasted time, and energy.
Everything about you- your hobbies, talents, gifts, and accomplishments are all unique in this world. They will never be able to be properly compared to anyone else’s life.
Mark Twain once said, “Comparison is the death of joy.” It turns out that science agrees with him. Several studies have discovered that we experience feelings of envy, low-self confidence, and depression, as a direct result of comparing ourselves to others.
This habit of comparing will never be overcome by achieving success, finding love, losing weight or any other number of things. There will always be something, or someone else that grabs our attention this way.
You have control over your own life, and at times even that feels like an impossibility. However, when we start comparing ourselves to others, we turn our focus to other peoples’ lives instead of our own. And that certainly isn’t going to help us, now is it?
Obsessing on things like how someone is more handsome, has more friends, more money, or is more successful than you isn’t just time-consuming and ineffective, it kills our motivation to become better versions of ourselves. Why? One study says it boils down to attention; if we constantly focus our attention on others, instead of ourselves, we will never have the motivation to do thing for ourselves and by ourselves.
So, What Can We Do To Stop All This Comparing And Finally Live Our Lives?
If You Need To Compare, Compare With Yourself.
I recently gave someone close to me some advice on this very topic. Essentially, we should strive to be the best possible versions of ourselves we can be. This isn’t only beneficial to you and your personal growth, it is good for the rest of the world too. can you imagine how amazing our society would be if we all tried to do that? Make an effort to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually, and to growing a tiny bit each day. Most of all, learn to celebrate and appreciate the little accomplishments you make without comparing them to others.
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