As a woman who has a naturally loud lady as her best friend, I can tell you that there are some interesting situations that arise when she is around. For example, we simply can not got out to eat without someone giving her the evil eye because of her regular speaking volume. And when she laughs? Forget about it.
Now, I think it’s important to clarify a few things about the relationship between two women on opposite ends of the vocal spectrum. First of all, I know that we both admire the qualities in each other that we, ourselves, can find rather mediocre at the best of times. I absolutely love how she seems to draw people towards her like a magnet with her huge smile and brazen voice, and (for some reason) she enjoys my quirky, introvert antics.
Being lucky enough to have a friendship like this for over a decade means that I have seen more than a few examples of how differently the world treats loud women, versus the “shy, quiet, delicate flower” that most of society is stagnantly comfortable with.
Most people think that women who are loud are displaying a need for attention or drama, or they find that loudness unattractive or “manly.” Truth be told, there’s a lot that loud women have to deal with that most of us just don’t realize.
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or in a hurry and speaking with urgency, people automatically assume you are mad. Now just kind of mad, but super angry hell-fire mad. Of course, you’re not, but trying to explain that only makes you sound more mad. And then they tell you to “calm down,” which actually doesmake you mad.
It’s true, you tend to be a little more assertive than most, and those who aren’t close to you will probably be caught off-guard by it. But once they get to know you, they realize you’re not bossy, you’re just a little loud.
pat yourself on the back when you deserve it, and tell it like it is. You’re basically the coach and cheerleader in your friendships, and you’re more than okay with that.
While most people may strongly dislike it when someone says “shh!” to them, you downright hate it. Maybe because it’s happened to you way more often than it has to other people, or maybe because you just can’t stand that kind of rudeness.
Whether it’s giving a toast at your friend’s wedding, or giving a presentation for work, you have never been asked to raise your voice or speak into the microphone. As if you’d need a microphone…
Most people can shy away or hide in a corner somewhere and casually blend into the background- but not you! Thanks to the amazing gift of loudness, even if you were to try and sit somewhere quietly by yourself, you know it wouldn’t last. You’d see someone you know, they’d wave to you from across the room, and instead of waving back, you shout “Hello!” for all to hear because that’s just the kind of person you are.
you may have made a conscious effort to lower your voice and speak quieter because of how harsh other people’s words were. They told you it was a “flaw” and it was unattractive or unladylike. And you tried to change for them because you thought they were right.
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